What do you do if you feel your girlfriend is unhappy but doesn't want to break up?

My girlfriend and i had an unplanned pregnancy 8 months ago. The baby is beautiful and she is a very good mother. We do not live together and she pays child support. We've been together for two years and we have a lot in common. We just went on a trip alone and had a great time hiking and biking. However, now that we are back home and back to work, she seems unhappy again. We don't talk like we used to and we never get intimate anymore. She seems distant and disinterested in me. However, she continues to come over and see the baby and take her on the weekends, etc. I've tried talking to her about it and i even told her that I was okay with us separating if that made her happy. We get along as friends but we aren't in love with each other. We both care a lot about each other and we are like really good friends but she doesn't seem happy. I just want her to be happy and if it means splitting up and just staying friends, I'm okay with that. But she doesn't want to break up? So i just continue. I have no intentions of meeting someone else or have the desire. I want to commit to this relationship and do everything i can to save it. I'm 42 and she's 51. We both have good jobs and we are both attractive and physically fit.



Do you think this is just a phase? She has a good job but its in the automotive industry and she doesn't know how long she will be employed? Do you think this is playing a part on the relationship as well?What do you do if you feel your girlfriend is unhappy but doesn't want to break up?
She had a baby 8 months ago and she is 51? Wow!



Stress could be affecting her, or it may be something else. You have to ask her what's going on when you both have a quiet moment and can have a real conversation (i.e. baby is asleep!)



Just express your worries or concerns non-confrontationally, and explain you would like to understand, both for your own peace of mind, and so you can possibly help. Good Luck!What do you do if you feel your girlfriend is unhappy but doesn't want to break up?
It is good to remember that moods can dampen when the sun doesn't shine. Today is rainy so who would be real happy?

Good friends is nice, but I find it works out better if you are lovers who develop a friendship if you ever want to get beyond the just friendship stage.